As seen in the Albuquerque Journal Rio Rancho section 4/8/10
There is nothing like looking through the Mother’s Day cards rack at the store to realize just how many different types of mothers there are in the world. Each one unique and perfect in their own way, with strong points in areas when you most need them.
What would it be like if you could take all of the best traits and build the perfect mother, one that takes a little from here and a smidge from there and voila- the perfect mother?
To start, I would add one cup of Martha Stewart for her epicurean abilities and knowing her way around a kitchen. I would love to eat pork chops with tomato chutney, and I know some of her cooking can get a little rich. My mother runs a close second with her Fisherman’s Stew with Crunchy (undercooked) Carrots, or Sweet and Sour Tuna Fish; canned tuna, no kidding.
When it comes to house cleaning, what better than to add a smidge of Hazel, the attentive maid in the light blue uniform from the 60s TV series of the same name? Technically, I don’t think Hazel was a mother, but she was a female presence in the Baxter home. The house was always spotless, her attitude perky and not a hair out of place or a spot on her apron.
I’ll take a half cup of Jane Jetson from the cartoon series for her fashion and shopping expertise. If you remember correctly, her favorite store was Mooning Dales and Jane could squeak money out of George like a pro. Jane and daughter Judy wore all the latest trends and used the latest gadgets at home.
For night time story telling, I will take 2 cups of Erma Bombeck, America’s humorist and newspaper columnist from the 80s and 90s who was able to find the funny in everyday life. From “Seize the moment. Think of all those women on the Titanic who waved off the dessert cart,” to “The grass is always greener over the septic tank," Erma was a great story teller. Having published 4,000 newspaper columns and 15 books throughout her career, it would be a joy listening to her.
Add a pinch of Shirley Partridge for any musical assistance and a dash of Samantha Stevens from Bewitched. She can twitch her nose and get you out of any situation.
I know my kids like me just the way I am. And one way they show it is by the note they put on our refrigerator of something I once said. Is it an endearing, “I love you, honey?” Or an inspirational, motivating quote that makes them feel so loved? No. It seems that I said something so prolific when I was on ebay one time searching for a particular item for the bathroom, that they couldn’t let it go unnoticed. So, held tightly to our freezer door with a lady bug magnet is my captivating quote for all to see, “All the good toilet seats are in Europe.”
Happy Mother’s Day to all of you wonderfully unique women.
Quote of the Week: “A man never sees all that his mother has been to him until it's too late to let her know he sees it.” -William Dean Howells, author.
Sunday, May 9, 2010
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
Spring Gardening in a Top 100 Fun City
There is another city ranking survey out this week. This one is by Portfolio magazine and it ranks the Top 100 Fun Cities in the US. Albuquerque made the list at number 80, beating out places like Modesto, California, McAllen, Texas and Provo, Utah. It doesn’t say much for beating out those cities, does it?
Surprising cities that beat out the Duke City? Youngstown, Ohio, Des Moines, Iowa and Omaha, Nebraska. The top ranked city for shopping, gambling, entertainment, culture, food and drink, high and low impact sports went to none other than New York City. I could have guessed that one. I guess our tram, green chile chicken stew and pink sunsets can’t hold a candle to the Statue of Liberty, Empire State Building or Broadway. But we like it.
So when spring hits the eightieth most fun place to live in the United States, what do we do? We batten down the hatches, turn our sprinklers back on and head out to the garden supply stores for some new plants to spruce up our yards. Since the neighbors are doing it, that means I’m doing it too, and so I went.
I wanted new plants, the kind I’ve never owned before, but once I got to the store, my eyes glazed over. At first I was like a kid in a candy store, wanting one of everything. Then I realized that the trees weren’t going to fit in my car, and did I really want another rose bush? I was good with geraniums, but how many can you have?
I had to call an expert and find out what the trends are this spring for making our yards better than our neighbors. Mike Dooley, owner of High Desert Gardens in Rio Rancho is a friend of mine who I go to from time to time when I need answers to questions like “what is a good tree to plant in my little yard?”
“The plant market on the retail end, I don’t know,” said Dooley, who has been in the landscape design business for over thirty year. “I suspect it is doing ok. But the installation market is still down. People will spend some money to put in some plants, but because of the maintenance involved, they are not doing full blown landscape jobs.”
In my quest to keep up with the Joneses, I had to get the inside scoop on what the neighbors were doing this spring. “Surprisingly hardscape is the popular thing; walls, stone walks, outdoor grills,” said Dooley. “And I think it’s associated with the fact that nobody can get a home loan. They are staying where they’re at and taking their money and upgrading their house, including their outdoor living areas. There seems to be a greater appreciation for hardscape because it is considered a home improvement and they will be able to get their money back at some point.”
What about us people who are scraping by but still want to have a nice yard, I wanted to know what the smartest way to spend my money was.
“Your maintenance dollar goes along way,” says Dooley. “You would make sure your yard is properly maintained including fertilize your lawn and scrubs, trim perennials, and check your irrigation system.”
But maintenance isn’t exciting. I think I’ll go back for another geranium.
Quote of the Week: “Did you ever think how a bit of land shows the character of the owner?” - Laura Ingalls Wilder.
Surprising cities that beat out the Duke City? Youngstown, Ohio, Des Moines, Iowa and Omaha, Nebraska. The top ranked city for shopping, gambling, entertainment, culture, food and drink, high and low impact sports went to none other than New York City. I could have guessed that one. I guess our tram, green chile chicken stew and pink sunsets can’t hold a candle to the Statue of Liberty, Empire State Building or Broadway. But we like it.
So when spring hits the eightieth most fun place to live in the United States, what do we do? We batten down the hatches, turn our sprinklers back on and head out to the garden supply stores for some new plants to spruce up our yards. Since the neighbors are doing it, that means I’m doing it too, and so I went.
I wanted new plants, the kind I’ve never owned before, but once I got to the store, my eyes glazed over. At first I was like a kid in a candy store, wanting one of everything. Then I realized that the trees weren’t going to fit in my car, and did I really want another rose bush? I was good with geraniums, but how many can you have?
I had to call an expert and find out what the trends are this spring for making our yards better than our neighbors. Mike Dooley, owner of High Desert Gardens in Rio Rancho is a friend of mine who I go to from time to time when I need answers to questions like “what is a good tree to plant in my little yard?”
“The plant market on the retail end, I don’t know,” said Dooley, who has been in the landscape design business for over thirty year. “I suspect it is doing ok. But the installation market is still down. People will spend some money to put in some plants, but because of the maintenance involved, they are not doing full blown landscape jobs.”
In my quest to keep up with the Joneses, I had to get the inside scoop on what the neighbors were doing this spring. “Surprisingly hardscape is the popular thing; walls, stone walks, outdoor grills,” said Dooley. “And I think it’s associated with the fact that nobody can get a home loan. They are staying where they’re at and taking their money and upgrading their house, including their outdoor living areas. There seems to be a greater appreciation for hardscape because it is considered a home improvement and they will be able to get their money back at some point.”
What about us people who are scraping by but still want to have a nice yard, I wanted to know what the smartest way to spend my money was.
“Your maintenance dollar goes along way,” says Dooley. “You would make sure your yard is properly maintained including fertilize your lawn and scrubs, trim perennials, and check your irrigation system.”
But maintenance isn’t exciting. I think I’ll go back for another geranium.
Quote of the Week: “Did you ever think how a bit of land shows the character of the owner?” - Laura Ingalls Wilder.
19 Questions - Steve Shaw, Rio Rancho City Councilman
Rio Rancho is full of interesting people, some you know and some you don’t. Even the more prominent residents in town who are in the news all of the time, we still don’t really get to know who they are.
I am kicking off a new series of my column, it is called 19 Questions. I created a survey of deep, as well as lighthearted questions that will give us a small glimpse into the lives of some of our fellow Rio Ranchoans. I ask 19 Questions of people you probably have heard of but never really knew anything about other than their job title.
Today Councilor Shaw has kindly agreed to go under the microscope and give us all a peek into what his favorite food is and the one thing he wishes Rio Ranch had.
Councilor Steven Shaw has called Rio Rancho home since 1985.He and his wife, Judy have been married for more than 25 years and have three daughters and five grandchildren. Shaw was elected to a four year term on the City Council in March 2008, after retiring from the Rio Rancho Department of Public Safety in 2006 as Deputy Chief.
Shaw has served on many boards including the New Mexico State D.A.R.E., the Rio Rancho Regional Chamber of Commerce, Haven House, and the Leadership Sandoval County Advisory Board. But did you know he’s a biker?
What's the most recent movie you've seen?
Clash of the Titans.
Your house is on fire and all of your family and pets are safe outside. What is the one thing you would go back and get?
My retirement scrapbook made by Mom.
What are you most afraid of?
I am most afraid of dying before my grand kids are grown and married.
What is your greatest extravagance?
My greatest extravagance is my motorcycle.
What is your favorite getaway spot in New Mexico?
My favorite getaway spot is Ruidoso.
What is your favorite food?
My favorite food is home made enchiladas, red with an egg.
Which came first, the chicken or the egg?
Chicken; what else could lay the egg?
How many pets do you have?
2 turtles, 6 pond gold fish.
What is the trait you most dislike in others?
Dishonesty.
At what Rio Rancho haunt are we most likely to spot you?
The Fat Squirrel.
What is your favorite ice cream flavor?
Chocolate.
What do you consider your greatest achievement?
Marrying my wife and raising three wonderful daughters.
If you won $10 million in the lottery, what is the first thing you would buy?
Disney’s vacation for my family (daughters, spouses and grandchildren).
What is one thing you wish Rio Rancho had that is doesn’t?
A large, retail center.
Name one thing you want to do before you die?
Take my wife to the Grand Canyon.
What is your favorite restaurant?
Joe's Pasta House, Rio Rancho.
What word or phrase do you overuse?
“Yes.” I have a hard time saying no when asked to volunteer for anything.
If you had to impress someone from out of town, where is the one place you would take them?
Santa Ana Star Center for a concert, show or game.
Red or green?
Red. Homemade, of course!
Quote of the Week: “We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men.” -Herman Melville, American novelist.
I am kicking off a new series of my column, it is called 19 Questions. I created a survey of deep, as well as lighthearted questions that will give us a small glimpse into the lives of some of our fellow Rio Ranchoans. I ask 19 Questions of people you probably have heard of but never really knew anything about other than their job title.
Today Councilor Shaw has kindly agreed to go under the microscope and give us all a peek into what his favorite food is and the one thing he wishes Rio Ranch had.
Councilor Steven Shaw has called Rio Rancho home since 1985.He and his wife, Judy have been married for more than 25 years and have three daughters and five grandchildren. Shaw was elected to a four year term on the City Council in March 2008, after retiring from the Rio Rancho Department of Public Safety in 2006 as Deputy Chief.
Shaw has served on many boards including the New Mexico State D.A.R.E., the Rio Rancho Regional Chamber of Commerce, Haven House, and the Leadership Sandoval County Advisory Board. But did you know he’s a biker?
What's the most recent movie you've seen?
Clash of the Titans.
Your house is on fire and all of your family and pets are safe outside. What is the one thing you would go back and get?
My retirement scrapbook made by Mom.
What are you most afraid of?
I am most afraid of dying before my grand kids are grown and married.
What is your greatest extravagance?
My greatest extravagance is my motorcycle.
What is your favorite getaway spot in New Mexico?
My favorite getaway spot is Ruidoso.
What is your favorite food?
My favorite food is home made enchiladas, red with an egg.
Which came first, the chicken or the egg?
Chicken; what else could lay the egg?
How many pets do you have?
2 turtles, 6 pond gold fish.
What is the trait you most dislike in others?
Dishonesty.
At what Rio Rancho haunt are we most likely to spot you?
The Fat Squirrel.
What is your favorite ice cream flavor?
Chocolate.
What do you consider your greatest achievement?
Marrying my wife and raising three wonderful daughters.
If you won $10 million in the lottery, what is the first thing you would buy?
Disney’s vacation for my family (daughters, spouses and grandchildren).
What is one thing you wish Rio Rancho had that is doesn’t?
A large, retail center.
Name one thing you want to do before you die?
Take my wife to the Grand Canyon.
What is your favorite restaurant?
Joe's Pasta House, Rio Rancho.
What word or phrase do you overuse?
“Yes.” I have a hard time saying no when asked to volunteer for anything.
If you had to impress someone from out of town, where is the one place you would take them?
Santa Ana Star Center for a concert, show or game.
Red or green?
Red. Homemade, of course!
Quote of the Week: “We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men.” -Herman Melville, American novelist.
Microchippng Your Dog Can Save Their Masters Too
“He was missing for most of that day and all night. I thought he was gone.”
Those were the words of Dorothy DeBuck, her voice cracking over the phone when I asked her to tell me how she felt when her husband, Jack went missing two weeks ago.
Jack DeBuck, who suffers from the early stages of dementia, went out for his usual walk with his dog, Sheena. According to his wife, Jack knows his way around town. “He’s always walking around. He knows directions,” Dorothy said. “I think he knew exactly where he was going.”
But Jack must have gotten side tracked and didn’t return home that day. The series of events that reunited Jack and Dorothy prove a story can have a happy ending when all the right pieces and people fall into place.
Apparently Jack left his home in Albuquerque on a Friday afternoon two weeks ago and ended up at The Range Café in Bernalillo almost 24 hours later and 12 miles from his home. Noting his disorientation, the people at The Range contacted the police to help Jack, and Bernalillo Animal Control to help the white Shepard mix dog.
“My theory is that he walked to where we used to live in Placitas,” said Dorothy. “He is good with directions, just not very good at communicating.”
Indeed he wasn’t. The authorities took Jack to UNM Hospital for observation. Meanwhile, Sheena was taken to Watermelon Mountain Ranch in Rio Rancho and scanned to see if she had a microchip that might identifier her.
Sheena in fact had a microchip and Jim Putnam, office manager at WMR made some phone calls. “I found that it was a Home Again chip and I called the company,” says Putnam. “I got lucky and got Dorothy's old address in Placitas and two phone numbers. One apparently not good, one still good. Putnam got on the horn to Dorothy and told her her dog had been found.
Putnam then called Melissa Middleton of UNMH and told her the last name of the gentleman she had was Debuck.
“When I told her the last name was DeBuck, she echoed it with a little excitement,” said Putnam. “I asked her if that rang a bell and she said that the man had muttered ‘debunk, debunk’ but they didn't know what he was saying.” She was thrilled to receive the information and identified Mr. Debuck.
“Watermelon Mountain Ranch took really good care of Sheena and they brushed her,” says Dorothy. Jack and Sheena were really happy to see each other when we got there to pick her up. I want to give credit to Jim for finding her chip that lead to us.”
When I asked Dorothy if she lets Jack go out anymore, she was cautious. “He’s still walking the dog,” she said. “He just goes for shorter walks now.”
Not only is the need to micro-chip your dog a smart way to identify her should she get lost, but in some cases it can identify its master as well.
Quote of the Week: "In my life's chain of events nothing was accidental. Everything happened according to an inner need." - Hannah Senesh
Those were the words of Dorothy DeBuck, her voice cracking over the phone when I asked her to tell me how she felt when her husband, Jack went missing two weeks ago.
Jack DeBuck, who suffers from the early stages of dementia, went out for his usual walk with his dog, Sheena. According to his wife, Jack knows his way around town. “He’s always walking around. He knows directions,” Dorothy said. “I think he knew exactly where he was going.”
But Jack must have gotten side tracked and didn’t return home that day. The series of events that reunited Jack and Dorothy prove a story can have a happy ending when all the right pieces and people fall into place.
Apparently Jack left his home in Albuquerque on a Friday afternoon two weeks ago and ended up at The Range Café in Bernalillo almost 24 hours later and 12 miles from his home. Noting his disorientation, the people at The Range contacted the police to help Jack, and Bernalillo Animal Control to help the white Shepard mix dog.
“My theory is that he walked to where we used to live in Placitas,” said Dorothy. “He is good with directions, just not very good at communicating.”
Indeed he wasn’t. The authorities took Jack to UNM Hospital for observation. Meanwhile, Sheena was taken to Watermelon Mountain Ranch in Rio Rancho and scanned to see if she had a microchip that might identifier her.
Sheena in fact had a microchip and Jim Putnam, office manager at WMR made some phone calls. “I found that it was a Home Again chip and I called the company,” says Putnam. “I got lucky and got Dorothy's old address in Placitas and two phone numbers. One apparently not good, one still good. Putnam got on the horn to Dorothy and told her her dog had been found.
Putnam then called Melissa Middleton of UNMH and told her the last name of the gentleman she had was Debuck.
“When I told her the last name was DeBuck, she echoed it with a little excitement,” said Putnam. “I asked her if that rang a bell and she said that the man had muttered ‘debunk, debunk’ but they didn't know what he was saying.” She was thrilled to receive the information and identified Mr. Debuck.
“Watermelon Mountain Ranch took really good care of Sheena and they brushed her,” says Dorothy. Jack and Sheena were really happy to see each other when we got there to pick her up. I want to give credit to Jim for finding her chip that lead to us.”
When I asked Dorothy if she lets Jack go out anymore, she was cautious. “He’s still walking the dog,” she said. “He just goes for shorter walks now.”
Not only is the need to micro-chip your dog a smart way to identify her should she get lost, but in some cases it can identify its master as well.
Quote of the Week: "In my life's chain of events nothing was accidental. Everything happened according to an inner need." - Hannah Senesh
Dan Aykroyd -So Close and Yet So Far
I was going to write this week’s column on meeting Dan Aykroyd last Thursday. Think Blues Brothers, Ghost Busters and Saturday Night Live; that Dan Aykroyd. He was in town promoting his Crystal Head vodka and had a meet and greet at the Walgreens down on Coors. But even arriving 45 minutes early, the line was already out the door, around the side and all the way to the back of the building. I had a choice to wait with the die hard fans for a once in a lifetime chance to meet this celebrity, or get home and get dinner in the oven for two starving children. I hope he comes back again.
So, instead today I offer up some very interesting anecdotes for you to ponder. The kind of information that gets forwarded in emails everyday but no one has time to read.
Statues of soldiers on horses are in many parks across the country. Some horses are rearing up, some only holding one foot up. Do you think the horse’s pose was at the discretion of the sculptor? As a matter of fact, if the statue of a person on a horse has both front legs in the air, the person died in battle. If the horse has one front leg in the air, the person died because of wounds received in battle. If the horse has all four legs on the ground, the person died of natural causes.
Sayings have interesting origins, should one ever take the time to research them. In the 1400's, a law was set forth in England that a man was allowed to beat his wife with a stick no thicker than his thumb. This is where we got the phrase “the rule of thumb.”
How about the phrase, “Good night, sleep tight.” In Shakespeare's time, mattresses were secured on bed frames by ropes. When you pulled on the ropes, the mattress tightened, making the bed firmer and more comfortable to sleep on.
They say the happiest days of a boat owner’s life is the day they buy it and the day they sell it. And of course it is bad luck not to name your boat. And what is the most popular name for a boat? Obsession.
In English pubs, ale is ordered by pints and quarts. In old England, when customers got unruly, the bartender would tell them to “Mind your pints and quarts, and settle down.” Hence the term “mind your p’s and q’s.”
Half of all Americans live within 50 miles of their birthplace. Having been born in Huntington, West Virginia, I am in the other half and so are most of the people I know.
Who was the first couple to be shown in bed together on prime time TV? Fred and Wilma Flintstone. But I swear they had twin beds with Dino’s bed on the floor next to them.
With the body scanners, luggage charges and terror threats, how many people are still flying the friendly skies everyday? On average, the number of people airborne over the U.S. in any given hour is 61,000.
What was the first novel ever written on a typewriter? Tom Sawyer.
And my favorite: 111,111,111 x 111,111,111 = 12,345,678,987, 654,321
Quote of the Week: “They're not gonna catch us. We're on a mission from God!” – Dan Aykroyd as Elwood from The Blues Brothers, 1980
So, instead today I offer up some very interesting anecdotes for you to ponder. The kind of information that gets forwarded in emails everyday but no one has time to read.
Statues of soldiers on horses are in many parks across the country. Some horses are rearing up, some only holding one foot up. Do you think the horse’s pose was at the discretion of the sculptor? As a matter of fact, if the statue of a person on a horse has both front legs in the air, the person died in battle. If the horse has one front leg in the air, the person died because of wounds received in battle. If the horse has all four legs on the ground, the person died of natural causes.
Sayings have interesting origins, should one ever take the time to research them. In the 1400's, a law was set forth in England that a man was allowed to beat his wife with a stick no thicker than his thumb. This is where we got the phrase “the rule of thumb.”
How about the phrase, “Good night, sleep tight.” In Shakespeare's time, mattresses were secured on bed frames by ropes. When you pulled on the ropes, the mattress tightened, making the bed firmer and more comfortable to sleep on.
They say the happiest days of a boat owner’s life is the day they buy it and the day they sell it. And of course it is bad luck not to name your boat. And what is the most popular name for a boat? Obsession.
In English pubs, ale is ordered by pints and quarts. In old England, when customers got unruly, the bartender would tell them to “Mind your pints and quarts, and settle down.” Hence the term “mind your p’s and q’s.”
Half of all Americans live within 50 miles of their birthplace. Having been born in Huntington, West Virginia, I am in the other half and so are most of the people I know.
Who was the first couple to be shown in bed together on prime time TV? Fred and Wilma Flintstone. But I swear they had twin beds with Dino’s bed on the floor next to them.
With the body scanners, luggage charges and terror threats, how many people are still flying the friendly skies everyday? On average, the number of people airborne over the U.S. in any given hour is 61,000.
What was the first novel ever written on a typewriter? Tom Sawyer.
And my favorite: 111,111,111 x 111,111,111 = 12,345,678,987, 654,321
Quote of the Week: “They're not gonna catch us. We're on a mission from God!” – Dan Aykroyd as Elwood from The Blues Brothers, 1980
Sunday, March 7, 2010
Saturday, March 6, 2010
Woman Missing in Maui Was the "Greatest Teacher"
As appeared in the Albuquerque Journal Rio Rancho section 3/6/10
"Mom, I have the greatest teacher this year."
Middle school years are not the easiest of times. Girls can be mean, boys can be indifferent, and the curriculum is more challenging. School is not necessarily a kid's favorite place to be. To hear those words coming from your teenager can be music to your ears — and a reason your child wants to go to school at all.
My oldest daughter said that to me two years ago during her first week of ninth grade at Rio Rancho Mid-High. She was talking about Laura Vogel, the science teacher whose room at the end of the hall had a different kind of energy you could feel the moment you walked through her door. Not because of the beakers on the tables or the fuzzy experiments on the shelf, but because of the magnetic teacher at the front of the room.
Vogel's reputation preceded her. Everyone wanted her, and you were lucky if you got her for a teacher.
I met Vogel at back-to-school night that August where the regular drill consisted of a five-minute speech on what was expected from your child that semester.
Not in Vogel's class: The parents were paired up in teams, given a pile of wood blocks and told to follow the directions on the board and prove E equaled MC squared, or something to that effect. And you were timed. What a blast for a parent — just imagine how much fun their kids had during the day.
"We had a lot of our classes outside," said Lili, a former student of Vogel's. "We used to drop old appliances off the roof to study the effects of gravity. Oh, and our class adopted an ape. She was into a lot of animal causes."
Hamilton, another former student of Vogel's, had similar fond memories. "She was the teacher who made you smile about science. Her energy for what she taught and her care and nurturing of her students earned her the respect she very well deserves. Not to mention she was an awesome tree hugger as well."
Vogel coached girl's soccer at Mayfield High School in Las Cruces and science in Rio Rancho prior to moving to Hawaii to tutor. She disappeared Feb. 21 while camping near her home in Maui. There hasn't been much luck in finding her, and her family and friends are worried.
A candlelight vigil was held Thursday night in Rio Rancho for Vogel, and I would say close to 100 people showed up to pray, share their stories of her and just be together. We shielded our candles from the wind and took turns remembering special things about this outdoorsy, athletic, kind-hearted soul.
Someone remembered how Vogel wouldn't miss a Sunday steak barbecue with friends but would proudly bring a bowl of squash; she was a staunch vegetarian. Someone else said she was probably the only person to have ever surfed Cochiti Lake in eastern New Mexico (she was an avid surfer, no matter the body of water). Someone else remembered how much Vogel loved Bob Marley and would often play his music in the classroom. There was laughter, tears and warm wishes for her safe return.
If you have a memory of Laura Vogel you would like to share, please send it to me. Join Find Laura Vogel on Facebook or visit www.findlauravogel.blogspot.com for updates.
Our thoughts and prayers are with Laura and her family.
Quote of the Week: "Rise up this mornin'/ Smiled with the risin' sun/Three little birds/ Pitch by my doorstep/Singin' sweet songs/Of melodies pure and true/ Sayin' ( This is my message to you-ou-ou:)" — Bob Marley, "Everything's Gonna Be Alright"
"Mom, I have the greatest teacher this year."
Middle school years are not the easiest of times. Girls can be mean, boys can be indifferent, and the curriculum is more challenging. School is not necessarily a kid's favorite place to be. To hear those words coming from your teenager can be music to your ears — and a reason your child wants to go to school at all.
My oldest daughter said that to me two years ago during her first week of ninth grade at Rio Rancho Mid-High. She was talking about Laura Vogel, the science teacher whose room at the end of the hall had a different kind of energy you could feel the moment you walked through her door. Not because of the beakers on the tables or the fuzzy experiments on the shelf, but because of the magnetic teacher at the front of the room.
Vogel's reputation preceded her. Everyone wanted her, and you were lucky if you got her for a teacher.
I met Vogel at back-to-school night that August where the regular drill consisted of a five-minute speech on what was expected from your child that semester.
Not in Vogel's class: The parents were paired up in teams, given a pile of wood blocks and told to follow the directions on the board and prove E equaled MC squared, or something to that effect. And you were timed. What a blast for a parent — just imagine how much fun their kids had during the day.
"We had a lot of our classes outside," said Lili, a former student of Vogel's. "We used to drop old appliances off the roof to study the effects of gravity. Oh, and our class adopted an ape. She was into a lot of animal causes."
Hamilton, another former student of Vogel's, had similar fond memories. "She was the teacher who made you smile about science. Her energy for what she taught and her care and nurturing of her students earned her the respect she very well deserves. Not to mention she was an awesome tree hugger as well."
Vogel coached girl's soccer at Mayfield High School in Las Cruces and science in Rio Rancho prior to moving to Hawaii to tutor. She disappeared Feb. 21 while camping near her home in Maui. There hasn't been much luck in finding her, and her family and friends are worried.
A candlelight vigil was held Thursday night in Rio Rancho for Vogel, and I would say close to 100 people showed up to pray, share their stories of her and just be together. We shielded our candles from the wind and took turns remembering special things about this outdoorsy, athletic, kind-hearted soul.
Someone remembered how Vogel wouldn't miss a Sunday steak barbecue with friends but would proudly bring a bowl of squash; she was a staunch vegetarian. Someone else said she was probably the only person to have ever surfed Cochiti Lake in eastern New Mexico (she was an avid surfer, no matter the body of water). Someone else remembered how much Vogel loved Bob Marley and would often play his music in the classroom. There was laughter, tears and warm wishes for her safe return.
If you have a memory of Laura Vogel you would like to share, please send it to me. Join Find Laura Vogel on Facebook or visit www.findlauravogel.blogspot.com for updates.
Our thoughts and prayers are with Laura and her family.
Quote of the Week: "Rise up this mornin'/ Smiled with the risin' sun/Three little birds/ Pitch by my doorstep/Singin' sweet songs/Of melodies pure and true/ Sayin' ( This is my message to you-ou-ou:)" — Bob Marley, "Everything's Gonna Be Alright"
Monday, March 1, 2010
A Few Slip Ups to Cheer You Up
As appeared in the Albuquerque Journal, Rio Rancho section, February 27, 2010
As we try to schlep our way through February and keep the winter doldrums at bay, all we can do is worry about how high our next PNM bill is going to be, and how we are going to pay the credit card bills from Christmas. We need some cheering up.
And when looking for a laugh, where better to turn than ourselves, or shall I say the authors of regrettably phrased classified ads found in newspapers around the world. Unrehearsed and unintentional as they may be, the intricacies of human language may have fouled these writers up, or perhaps it was just a case of pure ignorance on their part. Either way, here’s a little sunshine breaking through your gray Saturday.
-"Georgia peaches, California grown - 89 cents lb."
-“2 female Boston Terrier puppies, 7 wks old, perfect markings, 555-1234. Leave mess."
-“Great Dames for sale."
-"Lost Cocktail."
-"Free Yorkshire Terrier. 8 yeards old. Hateful little dog."
-"Free ducks. You catch."
-"1 man, 7 woman hot tub -- $850/offer"
-"Amana washer $100. Owned by clean bachelor who seldom washed."
-"Snow blower for sale...only used on snowy days."
-"2 wire mesh butchering gloves: 1 5-finger, 1 3-finger, pair: $15"
-"Shakespeare's Pizza - Free Chopsticks"
-"Hummels - largest selection ever. 'If it's in stock, we have it!'"
-"Tired of working for only $9.75 per hour? We offer profit sharing and flexible hours. Starting pay: $7 - $9 per hour."
-"Get rid of aunts: Zap does the job in 24 hours."
-"Save regularly in our bank. You'll never reget it."
-"This is the model home for your future. It was panned by Better Homes and Gardens."
-“Wanted. Hunting rifle, suitable for teenagers."
-"Christmas tag sale. Handmade gifts for the hard-to-find person."
-"Wanted: Hair-cutter. Excellent growth potential."
-"Wanted: Preparer of food. Must be dependable, like the food business, and be willing to get hands dirty."
-"Mother's helper -- peasant working conditions."
-"Buy your new bedroom suite from us, and we will stand behind it for six months."
-"Dinner Special -- Turkey $2.35; Chicken or Beef $2.25; Children $2.00."
-"Government employer looking for candidates. Criminal background required."
-"His and hers bicycles, $25 each or both for $55."
-"For sale: an antique desk suitable for lady with thick legs and large drawers."
-"We'll move you worldwide throughout the country."
-“We do not tear your clothing with machinery. We do it carefully by hand."
-"Tattoos done while you wait."
-"Dog for sale: eats anything and is fond of children."
-"Stock up and save. Limit: one."
-"For Rent: 6-room hated apartment."
-"Wanted to buy: fishing net, must have no holes."
-"To let: 4 bedroom house close to town. No poets."
-"Used Cars: Why go elsewhere to be cheated? Come here first!"
-"3-year-old teacher need for pre-school. Experience preferred."
-"Our experienced Mom will care of your child. Fenced yard, meals, and smacks included."
-"Auto Repair Service. Free pick-up and delivery. Try us once, you'll never go anywhere again."
-"Girl wanted to assist magician in cutting-off-head illusion. Blue Cross and salary."
-"Mixing bowl set designed to please a cook with round bottom for efficient beating."
-"Semi-Annual after-Christmas Sale."
-"We will oil your sewing machine and adjust tension in your home for $1.00."
Quote of the Week: “Humor is the great thing, the saving thing. The minute it crops up, all our irritation and resentments slip away, and a sunny spirit takes their place.” -Mark Twain
As we try to schlep our way through February and keep the winter doldrums at bay, all we can do is worry about how high our next PNM bill is going to be, and how we are going to pay the credit card bills from Christmas. We need some cheering up.
And when looking for a laugh, where better to turn than ourselves, or shall I say the authors of regrettably phrased classified ads found in newspapers around the world. Unrehearsed and unintentional as they may be, the intricacies of human language may have fouled these writers up, or perhaps it was just a case of pure ignorance on their part. Either way, here’s a little sunshine breaking through your gray Saturday.
-"Georgia peaches, California grown - 89 cents lb."
-“2 female Boston Terrier puppies, 7 wks old, perfect markings, 555-1234. Leave mess."
-“Great Dames for sale."
-"Lost Cocktail."
-"Free Yorkshire Terrier. 8 yeards old. Hateful little dog."
-"Free ducks. You catch."
-"1 man, 7 woman hot tub -- $850/offer"
-"Amana washer $100. Owned by clean bachelor who seldom washed."
-"Snow blower for sale...only used on snowy days."
-"2 wire mesh butchering gloves: 1 5-finger, 1 3-finger, pair: $15"
-"Shakespeare's Pizza - Free Chopsticks"
-"Hummels - largest selection ever. 'If it's in stock, we have it!'"
-"Tired of working for only $9.75 per hour? We offer profit sharing and flexible hours. Starting pay: $7 - $9 per hour."
-"Get rid of aunts: Zap does the job in 24 hours."
-"Save regularly in our bank. You'll never reget it."
-"This is the model home for your future. It was panned by Better Homes and Gardens."
-“Wanted. Hunting rifle, suitable for teenagers."
-"Christmas tag sale. Handmade gifts for the hard-to-find person."
-"Wanted: Hair-cutter. Excellent growth potential."
-"Wanted: Preparer of food. Must be dependable, like the food business, and be willing to get hands dirty."
-"Mother's helper -- peasant working conditions."
-"Buy your new bedroom suite from us, and we will stand behind it for six months."
-"Dinner Special -- Turkey $2.35; Chicken or Beef $2.25; Children $2.00."
-"Government employer looking for candidates. Criminal background required."
-"His and hers bicycles, $25 each or both for $55."
-"For sale: an antique desk suitable for lady with thick legs and large drawers."
-"We'll move you worldwide throughout the country."
-“We do not tear your clothing with machinery. We do it carefully by hand."
-"Tattoos done while you wait."
-"Dog for sale: eats anything and is fond of children."
-"Stock up and save. Limit: one."
-"For Rent: 6-room hated apartment."
-"Wanted to buy: fishing net, must have no holes."
-"To let: 4 bedroom house close to town. No poets."
-"Used Cars: Why go elsewhere to be cheated? Come here first!"
-"3-year-old teacher need for pre-school. Experience preferred."
-"Our experienced Mom will care of your child. Fenced yard, meals, and smacks included."
-"Auto Repair Service. Free pick-up and delivery. Try us once, you'll never go anywhere again."
-"Girl wanted to assist magician in cutting-off-head illusion. Blue Cross and salary."
-"Mixing bowl set designed to please a cook with round bottom for efficient beating."
-"Semi-Annual after-Christmas Sale."
-"We will oil your sewing machine and adjust tension in your home for $1.00."
Quote of the Week: “Humor is the great thing, the saving thing. The minute it crops up, all our irritation and resentments slip away, and a sunny spirit takes their place.” -Mark Twain
It's So Easy To Fall in Love With Olympians
As appeared in the Albuquerque Journal, February 19, 2010
With a malfunctioning torch-lighting arm at the Opening Ceremonies, the 2010 Winter Olympic Games began last week in Vancouver with high hopes and dreams. The athletes have been battling the elements as they try their best to win a gold medal while we sit back in our living rooms learning their back stories and picking our favorite underdogs to cheer for.
Americans love an underdog and when it comes to the Olympics, we don’t discriminate. Oh sure, we prefer to cheer on our red, white and blue-wearing homies, but when there are no American flags in the top three positions, there is always another sweet face with a heart wrenching background we can cry for when they fall.
There are always athletes who stand out for us, individually and as a country. Remember Olga Korbut from the 1972 Munich games? This 17-year old gymnast from the USSR with the scraggily pig tails and crooked smile stole hearts all over the world when she showed uncharacteristic emotion and tears after her success on the uneven bars and balance beam.
I fell in love with Mark Spitz that summer. An American swimmer with a big smile, big mustache and seven gold medals made cheering for this record setter as much fun as cheering for Michael Phelps 36 years later. I have forgiven Michael Phelps for breaking Spitz’s record because well, records are made to be broken.
My next crush came in 1976 when Bruce Jenner won the gold medal for decathlon in the Montreal Summer Olympics. That final victory lap he took around the track, all out of breath and waving the American flag is burned in my memory forever. Mark Spitz was now history.
For the 1988 Winter Olympics in Calgary, speed skater Dan Jansen stole our hearts. On the day of his race he received a phone call saying that his sister, Jane was dying of leukemia. She died later that same day.
He went on to compete that night in the 500 meters, but fell early in the race. A few days later in the 1,000 meter race, he began with record-breaking speed but fell again. He left the 1988 Olympics with no medals. Then in a final chance at Olympic gold in 1994, he won; setting a new world record in the process, and dedicated his gold medal to his late sister. Pass the hankies.
We fell in love with Oksana Baiul in the 1994 Winter Olympics in Lillehammer, Norway. After losing her mother to ovarian cancer when she was 13, Baiul was alone sleeping on a cot at the ice skating rink in her home town in the Ukraine. A mentor took her in and taught her the techniques that took her to the top; a gold medal. And the world couldn’t have been happier.
There are plenty of Americans at the gold medal level this year, so who has your heart this time around?
At 6’ 1”, men’s figure skater Evan Lysacek is considered much taller than typical skaters. For that and his black feathered gloves, we hold our breath for his success.
Who can’t not cheer on speed skater Apollo Ohno and hold their breath around the curves when he skims his hand along the ice? Speed skater gold medalist Shani Davis? Snow board gold medalist Shaun White? Downhill gold medalist Lindsey Vonn?
Does anyone else have Olympic fever this week?
Quote of the Week: “A lifetime of training for just ten seconds.” - Jesse Owens, winner of four gold medals at the 1936 Summer Olympics.
With a malfunctioning torch-lighting arm at the Opening Ceremonies, the 2010 Winter Olympic Games began last week in Vancouver with high hopes and dreams. The athletes have been battling the elements as they try their best to win a gold medal while we sit back in our living rooms learning their back stories and picking our favorite underdogs to cheer for.
Americans love an underdog and when it comes to the Olympics, we don’t discriminate. Oh sure, we prefer to cheer on our red, white and blue-wearing homies, but when there are no American flags in the top three positions, there is always another sweet face with a heart wrenching background we can cry for when they fall.
There are always athletes who stand out for us, individually and as a country. Remember Olga Korbut from the 1972 Munich games? This 17-year old gymnast from the USSR with the scraggily pig tails and crooked smile stole hearts all over the world when she showed uncharacteristic emotion and tears after her success on the uneven bars and balance beam.
I fell in love with Mark Spitz that summer. An American swimmer with a big smile, big mustache and seven gold medals made cheering for this record setter as much fun as cheering for Michael Phelps 36 years later. I have forgiven Michael Phelps for breaking Spitz’s record because well, records are made to be broken.
My next crush came in 1976 when Bruce Jenner won the gold medal for decathlon in the Montreal Summer Olympics. That final victory lap he took around the track, all out of breath and waving the American flag is burned in my memory forever. Mark Spitz was now history.
For the 1988 Winter Olympics in Calgary, speed skater Dan Jansen stole our hearts. On the day of his race he received a phone call saying that his sister, Jane was dying of leukemia. She died later that same day.
He went on to compete that night in the 500 meters, but fell early in the race. A few days later in the 1,000 meter race, he began with record-breaking speed but fell again. He left the 1988 Olympics with no medals. Then in a final chance at Olympic gold in 1994, he won; setting a new world record in the process, and dedicated his gold medal to his late sister. Pass the hankies.
We fell in love with Oksana Baiul in the 1994 Winter Olympics in Lillehammer, Norway. After losing her mother to ovarian cancer when she was 13, Baiul was alone sleeping on a cot at the ice skating rink in her home town in the Ukraine. A mentor took her in and taught her the techniques that took her to the top; a gold medal. And the world couldn’t have been happier.
There are plenty of Americans at the gold medal level this year, so who has your heart this time around?
At 6’ 1”, men’s figure skater Evan Lysacek is considered much taller than typical skaters. For that and his black feathered gloves, we hold our breath for his success.
Who can’t not cheer on speed skater Apollo Ohno and hold their breath around the curves when he skims his hand along the ice? Speed skater gold medalist Shani Davis? Snow board gold medalist Shaun White? Downhill gold medalist Lindsey Vonn?
Does anyone else have Olympic fever this week?
Quote of the Week: “A lifetime of training for just ten seconds.” - Jesse Owens, winner of four gold medals at the 1936 Summer Olympics.
A Translation of What She's Really Saying on Valentine's Day
As appeared in the Albuquerque Journal, February 13, 2010
With Valentine's Day tomorrow, I hope all of you men out there aren't waiting until tonight to go out and get a card and gift for your lovely ladies. Remember, we women are sentimental things who buy into this romantic stuff, even if the holiday was invented by greeting card companies.
If you bought jewelry and flowers for your loved one, you have nothing to worry about. But if you are questioning your choice of Valentine gift, chances are, you may hear a tone in her voice tomorrow morning that does not match the words coming out of her mouth.
Women are quite different than men, so as not to leave any confusion after the opening of the gifts tomorrow, allow me to translate some words you may hear.
1. "Fine."
If you find yourself defending the nifty rod-and-reel combo you gave her for this summer's vacation because she can catch lots of fish off the boat and cook 'em up real good in the frying pan, you may hear your darling girl respond with "fine." This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
2. "Five minutes."
If she is getting dressed for Valentine's brunch at the Hyatt Tamaya, you may end up waiting half-an-hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
3. "Nothing."
This is the calm before the storm. You asked, "Why the long face?" when she opened the fishing equipment and got this answer: "Nothing." Arguments that begin with "nothing" usually end in "fine."
4. "Go ahead."
As in, "Go ahead and go to Steve's and watch the game. The kids and I will eat the heart-shaped meatloaf I made all by ourselves." Go ahead is a dare, not permission. Don't do it!
5. "That's OK."
This is one of the most dangerous statements a woman can make to a man. "That's OK" means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for thinking a fishing pole would be the perfect gift for her on Valentine's Day.
6. "Thanks."
When a woman says thank you, do not question it. Just say you're welcome — unless she says, "Thanks a lot," as in: "Thanks a lot for the rod-and-reel combo. It's just what I always wanted." That is pure sarcasm, and she is not thanking you at all. Do not say, "You're welcome." It will bring on a "whatever."
7. "Whatever."
Whatever is a woman's way of saying, "End of discussion; I've had it with you."
8. "Don't worry about it."
Another dangerous statement meaning she is thinking she will buy her own Valentine's present next year. The retort may have a man asking, "What's wrong?" For the woman's response, refer to No. 3.
Good luck, men. Women may be very different than you, but we really aren't that difficult to understand. We know it's the thought that counts. Valentine's Day is tomorrow; you still have time to be her knight in shining armor. Don't worry about it.
Quote of the week: "If a woman has to choose between catching a fly ball and saving an infant's life, she will choose to save the infant's life without even considering if there are men on base." — Dave Barry, author, humorist.
With Valentine's Day tomorrow, I hope all of you men out there aren't waiting until tonight to go out and get a card and gift for your lovely ladies. Remember, we women are sentimental things who buy into this romantic stuff, even if the holiday was invented by greeting card companies.
If you bought jewelry and flowers for your loved one, you have nothing to worry about. But if you are questioning your choice of Valentine gift, chances are, you may hear a tone in her voice tomorrow morning that does not match the words coming out of her mouth.
Women are quite different than men, so as not to leave any confusion after the opening of the gifts tomorrow, allow me to translate some words you may hear.
1. "Fine."
If you find yourself defending the nifty rod-and-reel combo you gave her for this summer's vacation because she can catch lots of fish off the boat and cook 'em up real good in the frying pan, you may hear your darling girl respond with "fine." This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
2. "Five minutes."
If she is getting dressed for Valentine's brunch at the Hyatt Tamaya, you may end up waiting half-an-hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
3. "Nothing."
This is the calm before the storm. You asked, "Why the long face?" when she opened the fishing equipment and got this answer: "Nothing." Arguments that begin with "nothing" usually end in "fine."
4. "Go ahead."
As in, "Go ahead and go to Steve's and watch the game. The kids and I will eat the heart-shaped meatloaf I made all by ourselves." Go ahead is a dare, not permission. Don't do it!
5. "That's OK."
This is one of the most dangerous statements a woman can make to a man. "That's OK" means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for thinking a fishing pole would be the perfect gift for her on Valentine's Day.
6. "Thanks."
When a woman says thank you, do not question it. Just say you're welcome — unless she says, "Thanks a lot," as in: "Thanks a lot for the rod-and-reel combo. It's just what I always wanted." That is pure sarcasm, and she is not thanking you at all. Do not say, "You're welcome." It will bring on a "whatever."
7. "Whatever."
Whatever is a woman's way of saying, "End of discussion; I've had it with you."
8. "Don't worry about it."
Another dangerous statement meaning she is thinking she will buy her own Valentine's present next year. The retort may have a man asking, "What's wrong?" For the woman's response, refer to No. 3.
Good luck, men. Women may be very different than you, but we really aren't that difficult to understand. We know it's the thought that counts. Valentine's Day is tomorrow; you still have time to be her knight in shining armor. Don't worry about it.
Quote of the week: "If a woman has to choose between catching a fly ball and saving an infant's life, she will choose to save the infant's life without even considering if there are men on base." — Dave Barry, author, humorist.
Sunday, January 31, 2010
Pet Store Changes May Prompt Partnerships
As appeared in the Albuquerque Journal Rio Rancho section 1/30/10
Change is never easy. Mix that with a passionate subject like animals, and you get a nuclear bomb.
The Rio Rancho Animal Welfare Task Force has spent 18 months working on a proposal to improve the lives of animals in our city. I hear there are many suggestions on the proposal that are sure to create some uproar, and one in particular takes on pet stores.
In this town, that means Rio Rancho Pets and Critters Pets. No dog or cat sales allowed. Pet stores can still sell rabbits, guinea pigs, reptiles, fish and such, just not Fido or Fluffy.
Mike Davis, vice chairman of the Rio Rancho Animal Welfare Task Force, reminds us there are plenty of pet stores in Albuquerque that have survived on not selling dogs and cats since the HEART (Humane and Ethical Animal Rules and Treatment) ordinance went into effect in 2006. And that the new changes, if any, may not happen soon or ever.
"Our proposal sets strong guidelines on how your pets should be treated," Davis said, referring to microchipping and sterilizing, among other things. "It will probably be a yearlong process, and we put in a timeline that allows store owners plenty of time to comply."
Keep in mind, like all task forces the city assembles, proposals are just that: proposals. They are well thought out suggestions that the mayor and city council consider taking action on.
Eric Newsome has owned Rio Rancho Pets for just five years and wants to keep his pet store for at least another five years.
"I quit my job at Intel because I enjoy this," Newsome said. "Like Critters and me, if we don't sell dogs and cats, we won't make it."
More than ever before, people have become aware of the need to take care of abandoned, abused and homeless pets, and that is music to Sophia DiClemente's ears. The owner of Watermelon Mountain Ranch said there is a way for rescues and pet supply stores to partner together and help everyone involved.
"I know many rescue groups would welcome the opportunity to hold adoptions of their rescued dogs and cats at the pet stores in Rio Rancho," she said.
Rescue groups like PACA and Watermelon Mountain Ranch hold dog and cat adoptions at the PetSmart store on Coors inside and out. In fact, the PetSmart store on Eubank Boulevard is getting ready to open a brand new permanent dog adoption center inside the store. Watermelon Mountain Ranch is the lead organization that will make available up to 18 dogs and puppies full time in the new facility.
"We are so excited," DiClemente said. "I think the pet stores in Rio Rancho would benefit greatly by teaming up with rescue groups. What goodwill it would be for the community."
When one door closes, another opens.
Quote of the week: "Think of what you're saying. You can get it wrong and still you think that it's all right. Think of what I'm saying. We can work it out and get it straight, or say goodnight." — the Beatles
Change is never easy. Mix that with a passionate subject like animals, and you get a nuclear bomb.
The Rio Rancho Animal Welfare Task Force has spent 18 months working on a proposal to improve the lives of animals in our city. I hear there are many suggestions on the proposal that are sure to create some uproar, and one in particular takes on pet stores.
In this town, that means Rio Rancho Pets and Critters Pets. No dog or cat sales allowed. Pet stores can still sell rabbits, guinea pigs, reptiles, fish and such, just not Fido or Fluffy.
Mike Davis, vice chairman of the Rio Rancho Animal Welfare Task Force, reminds us there are plenty of pet stores in Albuquerque that have survived on not selling dogs and cats since the HEART (Humane and Ethical Animal Rules and Treatment) ordinance went into effect in 2006. And that the new changes, if any, may not happen soon or ever.
"Our proposal sets strong guidelines on how your pets should be treated," Davis said, referring to microchipping and sterilizing, among other things. "It will probably be a yearlong process, and we put in a timeline that allows store owners plenty of time to comply."
Keep in mind, like all task forces the city assembles, proposals are just that: proposals. They are well thought out suggestions that the mayor and city council consider taking action on.
Eric Newsome has owned Rio Rancho Pets for just five years and wants to keep his pet store for at least another five years.
"I quit my job at Intel because I enjoy this," Newsome said. "Like Critters and me, if we don't sell dogs and cats, we won't make it."
More than ever before, people have become aware of the need to take care of abandoned, abused and homeless pets, and that is music to Sophia DiClemente's ears. The owner of Watermelon Mountain Ranch said there is a way for rescues and pet supply stores to partner together and help everyone involved.
"I know many rescue groups would welcome the opportunity to hold adoptions of their rescued dogs and cats at the pet stores in Rio Rancho," she said.
Rescue groups like PACA and Watermelon Mountain Ranch hold dog and cat adoptions at the PetSmart store on Coors inside and out. In fact, the PetSmart store on Eubank Boulevard is getting ready to open a brand new permanent dog adoption center inside the store. Watermelon Mountain Ranch is the lead organization that will make available up to 18 dogs and puppies full time in the new facility.
"We are so excited," DiClemente said. "I think the pet stores in Rio Rancho would benefit greatly by teaming up with rescue groups. What goodwill it would be for the community."
When one door closes, another opens.
Quote of the week: "Think of what you're saying. You can get it wrong and still you think that it's all right. Think of what I'm saying. We can work it out and get it straight, or say goodnight." — the Beatles
Saturday, January 23, 2010
Tell Your Loved Ones How You Really Feel
As appeared in the Albuquerque Journal, Rio Rancho section 1/23/10
A friend of mine once told me how much she regretted not taking the time to tell her father what he meant to her. He died before she could tell him what a great dad he was and how much she looked up to him. And now he would never know how she felt.
She reminded me that while our parents were alive, we shouldn't miss this most important opportunity to let them know how we feel about them. Not only parents, but friends, siblings and children are also just as significant to be open with.
But some people don't get the chance. Their loved ones pass unexpectedly, contact is lost, or the courage just wasn't there at an opportune time to share our love. There is a chance to say whatever is in your heart to whomever it is on a new Web site, www.wouldhavesaid.com. The site is anonymous and this allows writers to be completely open and honest about their feelings.
Whether the intended person ever hears your words, the mere act of writing a letter is therapeutic. Take the letter from a woman whose husband died in a car accident: She said she wished she'd "laughed at his jokes more."
There is a letter from a 76-year-old woman to the nanny from her childhood in Vienna during the Holocaust.
"I didn't get a chance to tell you how much I admired your courage and appreciated your love. Having contact with Jews was forbidden, and taking a Jewish child into a public place could have resulted in the arrest of everyone in your family as well as dire punishment for yourself. I would very much like to thank you for giving me the only really good memory of my childhood days in Vienna and restoring my faith in humanity."
Rebekah, 31, writes to her elderly grandmother whose mind seems to be slipping away and conversations are fragmented.
"The one question I never had the guts to ask you was if heaven seemed more real the closer you got to it. That is really my one regret. I want to know because I look forward to the day when we are there together. I love you, and I wish this wasn't your foggy reality."
A few of the letters are heartbreaking, like the one from a woman to a former lover who had died. She said she wished she'd written to him while she had the chance because she'd loved him her entire life.
And then there is the letter from 15-year-old Madee she wrote to her father who apparently suffers from something too scary for a young child to talk about.
"I don't really know how to tell you that I don't want to see you because I'm scared of you. I know you wouldn't even understand why I'm scared of you because you don't remember the last time. I wish that this time you'll get treatment."
And sometimes the person you are too proud to confess to is in the bedroom next to you. Luis, 10, wrote to his little sister.
"Amanda, you're very special to me because of your kindness. Like yesterday when there were no Kit Kat candies left and you gave me your own. I feel very thankful for that and I don't say that enough. So thank you for all the things you've done and I love you very much."
Say it now my friends. Tell the people in your life how you really feel. And if you can't tell them, then write it in a letter. Tell them now while you have the chance.
Quote of the week: "Shower the people you love with love. Show them the way that you feel. Things are gonna be much better if you only will." — "Shower the People" by James Taylor
A friend of mine once told me how much she regretted not taking the time to tell her father what he meant to her. He died before she could tell him what a great dad he was and how much she looked up to him. And now he would never know how she felt.
She reminded me that while our parents were alive, we shouldn't miss this most important opportunity to let them know how we feel about them. Not only parents, but friends, siblings and children are also just as significant to be open with.
But some people don't get the chance. Their loved ones pass unexpectedly, contact is lost, or the courage just wasn't there at an opportune time to share our love. There is a chance to say whatever is in your heart to whomever it is on a new Web site, www.wouldhavesaid.com. The site is anonymous and this allows writers to be completely open and honest about their feelings.
Whether the intended person ever hears your words, the mere act of writing a letter is therapeutic. Take the letter from a woman whose husband died in a car accident: She said she wished she'd "laughed at his jokes more."
There is a letter from a 76-year-old woman to the nanny from her childhood in Vienna during the Holocaust.
"I didn't get a chance to tell you how much I admired your courage and appreciated your love. Having contact with Jews was forbidden, and taking a Jewish child into a public place could have resulted in the arrest of everyone in your family as well as dire punishment for yourself. I would very much like to thank you for giving me the only really good memory of my childhood days in Vienna and restoring my faith in humanity."
Rebekah, 31, writes to her elderly grandmother whose mind seems to be slipping away and conversations are fragmented.
"The one question I never had the guts to ask you was if heaven seemed more real the closer you got to it. That is really my one regret. I want to know because I look forward to the day when we are there together. I love you, and I wish this wasn't your foggy reality."
A few of the letters are heartbreaking, like the one from a woman to a former lover who had died. She said she wished she'd written to him while she had the chance because she'd loved him her entire life.
And then there is the letter from 15-year-old Madee she wrote to her father who apparently suffers from something too scary for a young child to talk about.
"I don't really know how to tell you that I don't want to see you because I'm scared of you. I know you wouldn't even understand why I'm scared of you because you don't remember the last time. I wish that this time you'll get treatment."
And sometimes the person you are too proud to confess to is in the bedroom next to you. Luis, 10, wrote to his little sister.
"Amanda, you're very special to me because of your kindness. Like yesterday when there were no Kit Kat candies left and you gave me your own. I feel very thankful for that and I don't say that enough. So thank you for all the things you've done and I love you very much."
Say it now my friends. Tell the people in your life how you really feel. And if you can't tell them, then write it in a letter. Tell them now while you have the chance.
Quote of the week: "Shower the people you love with love. Show them the way that you feel. Things are gonna be much better if you only will." — "Shower the People" by James Taylor
Monday, January 18, 2010
A Peak into Middle School Life
As appeared in the Albuquerque Journal Rio Rancho section 1/16/10
For parents of elementary school-age children, there are many opportunities to volunteer in the classroom and in turn, observe the class and see what a typical day is like for your child.
For that age, kids are very much alike in the grand scheme of things: cute, chatty, silly, eager to learn and please their teacher. But once your child moves on from fifth grade, the volunteer opportunities decrease tremendously and the kids grow up.
For the parents of middle school-age children, we don't get the opportunities to help out in the classrooms like we used to. No more grading papers, chaperoning field trips to Bandelier National Park or working the cake walk room at the fall festival. No, times change and kids grow up. And the hormones kick in.
The whole middle school existence is a microcosm unto itself. This "tween" world of little people revolves around tall girls and short boys, and who said what to whom and what did she say back and did he say anything about me?
My younger daughter's sixth grade class is currently having a fundraiser, and last week, I volunteered to sell Dilly Bars at Rio Rancho Middle School during lunch period A. I thought this may be my one and only chance to get an inside glimpse into the daily life of sixth-, seventh- and eighth-graders, albeit only a quick 30-minute lunch period.
Wasn't that the best time for observing the crowd? Sign me up.
Team 6A is raising money to take the students on a field trip to see "The Lightening Thief," a movie which is based on Greek mythology.
"The students are learning about Greek mythology in both social studies and language arts," said Jessica Makin, math teacher and part-time balloon pilot. "We are also using the money to get snacks and waters for the students during the New Mexico Standard Based Assessment testing at the end of March."
Thanks to Tony Otero and the crew at Dairy Queen, there was plenty of ice cream. The Dilly Bars came in chocolate or cherry, and that was my line as I stood behind the table looking at the long line of kids in front of me.
First up was a short, innocent looking mop head boy with glasses and a backpack bigger than he was.
"Two chocolates, please," he asked politely.
As I handed him his ice cream, I couldn't help but wonder if in six years, he would become captain of the chess team or the big man on campus with 15 girlfriends, or both.
Next up was a shy, quiet girl, taller than most everyone else and waiting patiently in line. She bought a cherry for herself and a chocolate for her best friend. I couldn't help but wonder if one day she would grow up to become a newspaper columnist writing about her school days.
In addition to Ms. Makin, the other 6A Team teachers who dropped by to see how sales were going were Ms. Krueger, Ms. Knight and Ms. Ridout.
"Sales are going very well, and we think we will hit our goal by the end of January," Makin said. "We want to thank the parents who have volunteered their time and energy to come help us raise the needed money."
Middle school equals drama to the 10 power — squared. The cat fights, the hormones and awkwardness of it all can be rough. But with good teachers and a little ice cream, things seem to work out just fine.
Quote of the week: "I hear those ice cream bells and I start to drool. Keep a couple quarts in my locker at school." — "I Love Rocky Road" by Weird Al Yankovic
Jennifer Huard's column appears each Saturday in the Albuquerque Journal Rio Rancho section.
For parents of elementary school-age children, there are many opportunities to volunteer in the classroom and in turn, observe the class and see what a typical day is like for your child.
For that age, kids are very much alike in the grand scheme of things: cute, chatty, silly, eager to learn and please their teacher. But once your child moves on from fifth grade, the volunteer opportunities decrease tremendously and the kids grow up.
For the parents of middle school-age children, we don't get the opportunities to help out in the classrooms like we used to. No more grading papers, chaperoning field trips to Bandelier National Park or working the cake walk room at the fall festival. No, times change and kids grow up. And the hormones kick in.
The whole middle school existence is a microcosm unto itself. This "tween" world of little people revolves around tall girls and short boys, and who said what to whom and what did she say back and did he say anything about me?
My younger daughter's sixth grade class is currently having a fundraiser, and last week, I volunteered to sell Dilly Bars at Rio Rancho Middle School during lunch period A. I thought this may be my one and only chance to get an inside glimpse into the daily life of sixth-, seventh- and eighth-graders, albeit only a quick 30-minute lunch period.
Wasn't that the best time for observing the crowd? Sign me up.
Team 6A is raising money to take the students on a field trip to see "The Lightening Thief," a movie which is based on Greek mythology.
"The students are learning about Greek mythology in both social studies and language arts," said Jessica Makin, math teacher and part-time balloon pilot. "We are also using the money to get snacks and waters for the students during the New Mexico Standard Based Assessment testing at the end of March."
Thanks to Tony Otero and the crew at Dairy Queen, there was plenty of ice cream. The Dilly Bars came in chocolate or cherry, and that was my line as I stood behind the table looking at the long line of kids in front of me.
First up was a short, innocent looking mop head boy with glasses and a backpack bigger than he was.
"Two chocolates, please," he asked politely.
As I handed him his ice cream, I couldn't help but wonder if in six years, he would become captain of the chess team or the big man on campus with 15 girlfriends, or both.
Next up was a shy, quiet girl, taller than most everyone else and waiting patiently in line. She bought a cherry for herself and a chocolate for her best friend. I couldn't help but wonder if one day she would grow up to become a newspaper columnist writing about her school days.
In addition to Ms. Makin, the other 6A Team teachers who dropped by to see how sales were going were Ms. Krueger, Ms. Knight and Ms. Ridout.
"Sales are going very well, and we think we will hit our goal by the end of January," Makin said. "We want to thank the parents who have volunteered their time and energy to come help us raise the needed money."
Middle school equals drama to the 10 power — squared. The cat fights, the hormones and awkwardness of it all can be rough. But with good teachers and a little ice cream, things seem to work out just fine.
Quote of the week: "I hear those ice cream bells and I start to drool. Keep a couple quarts in my locker at school." — "I Love Rocky Road" by Weird Al Yankovic
Jennifer Huard's column appears each Saturday in the Albuquerque Journal Rio Rancho section.
Thursday, January 7, 2010
On the Road Again - Washington, D.C.
As appeared in the Albuquerque Journal Rio Rancho section 1/2/10
I write this week’s column from Washington, D.C where my daughters and I are spending a week visiting our east coast relatives. I lived in the nation’s capital throughout the 80s and was vey excited to show my daughters my old stomping ground. Granted, I was a single girl in my mid twenties the last time I lived here and my old stomping ground consisted of yuppie after-work bars, neighborhood hangouts and local malls for buying dresses with big shoulder pads; not something a mother or two teen daughters would be interested in today.
Our first stop was the Lincoln Memorial. We walked the steps up to the top to see the marble statue of Lincoln sitting in his chair larger than life. As we turned around our cameras snapped the view of the Washington Monument and the reflecting pool. I found myself explaining the view by referencing the scene from Forrest Gump when he and Jenny splashed through the pool and embraced to the crowd’s applause.
Next, we walked to the Vietnam Veterans Memorial. This black granite wall with 58,261 names of the dead or missing soldiers of the war accomplishes its goal of being a somber and sobering memorial. We watched one family find the name of their loved one and pose for a picture by it. Talk about a lump in your throat.
The Air and Space Museum was every bit as spectacular as you can imagine. Seeing the Apollo 11 space capsule, Lindbergh’s Spirit of St. Louis, and Space Ship One, among the other notable space-related exhibits was incredible.
The bones of the dinosaurs, Woolly Mammoths and sea creatures at the Natural History Museum were incredible. But, I have to say the Hope Diamond was my favorite. The 45.52 carat blue diamond had a swarm of people around it snapping pictures and drooling. And wouldn’t you know it; they were all women and little girls.
Our next day took us on the Metro, Washington’s subway, down to Ford’s Theatre to see the site where President Lincoln was shot. I had been here before when I saw Cats on stage in the 80s. The relics from Lincoln’s fateful night are housed in the basement museum and we couldn’t wait to see them. When we arrived we learned the museum was closed.
On recommendation of a friend, we visited the International Spy Museum. Dedicated to the craft, practice and history of espionage, this was a treat. Upon arrival we assumed our cover names; Greta, Gloria and Jane and proceeded through the tunnel of rats to learn the old tricks from KGB, FBI, CIA and many more. I wanted my name on their wall too, the underground life was intoxicating. But, alas, my name will never be on that wall; I am too cleaver to be found, too loyal to defect and too shrewd to speak up. There was a video on 911 and the twin towers coming down, and how spies now are threatening to break America’s security codes in cyberspace. How do I get a job application to the CIA?
Tomorrow is the U. S. Holocaust Memorial Museum, the Jefferson Memorial and Arlington Cemetery to see the eternal flame. What a great trip this has been.
Quote of the Week: “Crossed the desert's bare, man. I've breathed the mountain air, man. Of travel I've had my share, man. I've been everywhere.- Johnny Cash, I’ve Been Everywhere.
I write this week’s column from Washington, D.C where my daughters and I are spending a week visiting our east coast relatives. I lived in the nation’s capital throughout the 80s and was vey excited to show my daughters my old stomping ground. Granted, I was a single girl in my mid twenties the last time I lived here and my old stomping ground consisted of yuppie after-work bars, neighborhood hangouts and local malls for buying dresses with big shoulder pads; not something a mother or two teen daughters would be interested in today.
Our first stop was the Lincoln Memorial. We walked the steps up to the top to see the marble statue of Lincoln sitting in his chair larger than life. As we turned around our cameras snapped the view of the Washington Monument and the reflecting pool. I found myself explaining the view by referencing the scene from Forrest Gump when he and Jenny splashed through the pool and embraced to the crowd’s applause.
Next, we walked to the Vietnam Veterans Memorial. This black granite wall with 58,261 names of the dead or missing soldiers of the war accomplishes its goal of being a somber and sobering memorial. We watched one family find the name of their loved one and pose for a picture by it. Talk about a lump in your throat.
The Air and Space Museum was every bit as spectacular as you can imagine. Seeing the Apollo 11 space capsule, Lindbergh’s Spirit of St. Louis, and Space Ship One, among the other notable space-related exhibits was incredible.
The bones of the dinosaurs, Woolly Mammoths and sea creatures at the Natural History Museum were incredible. But, I have to say the Hope Diamond was my favorite. The 45.52 carat blue diamond had a swarm of people around it snapping pictures and drooling. And wouldn’t you know it; they were all women and little girls.
Our next day took us on the Metro, Washington’s subway, down to Ford’s Theatre to see the site where President Lincoln was shot. I had been here before when I saw Cats on stage in the 80s. The relics from Lincoln’s fateful night are housed in the basement museum and we couldn’t wait to see them. When we arrived we learned the museum was closed.
On recommendation of a friend, we visited the International Spy Museum. Dedicated to the craft, practice and history of espionage, this was a treat. Upon arrival we assumed our cover names; Greta, Gloria and Jane and proceeded through the tunnel of rats to learn the old tricks from KGB, FBI, CIA and many more. I wanted my name on their wall too, the underground life was intoxicating. But, alas, my name will never be on that wall; I am too cleaver to be found, too loyal to defect and too shrewd to speak up. There was a video on 911 and the twin towers coming down, and how spies now are threatening to break America’s security codes in cyberspace. How do I get a job application to the CIA?
Tomorrow is the U. S. Holocaust Memorial Museum, the Jefferson Memorial and Arlington Cemetery to see the eternal flame. What a great trip this has been.
Quote of the Week: “Crossed the desert's bare, man. I've breathed the mountain air, man. Of travel I've had my share, man. I've been everywhere.- Johnny Cash, I’ve Been Everywhere.
Family Traditions
As appeared in the Albuquerque Journal Rio Rancho section 12/26/09
The holidays are steeped in family traditions. It wouldn’t be Christmas or New Year’s without them, everyone knows that. But besides the obvious traditions like decorating a tree or hanging up lights, what are some of the traditions that make the holidays special in your family?
My brother Chris called me the other night as he was heading out to the grocery store to buy the ingredients for Tom and Jerrys. “I haven’t made them in fifteen years,” he said. This traditional Christmastime drink dates back to the 1800s in the United States, but since my grandpa made them every Christmas season since I was born, it is in my blood. Every year growing up my brother and sister and I would spend the week between Christmas and New Year’s with my grandparents in Ohio. As kids, we would get a virgin Tom and Jerry; warm milk, powdered sugar and eggs minus the Brandy, 151 Rum and Jack Daniels. I could hear the pride in Chris’ voice when he told me he was going to show his son how to make the drink this year, passing down a family tradition that probably started even before Grandpa. Learning this tradition my grandfather taught me in the 1960s, to watching my nephew discover it in 2009 is heartwarming. And so it goes.
A Mexican-American tradition in many homes is making tamales on Christmas Eve. Recipes that have been passed down from generation to generation, tamales are central to many families’ night-before-Christmas rituals. My best guess is nobody gets to eat the tamales until after midnight Mass.
Some Italians and Sicilians have a tradition of the seven fish dinner on Christmas Eve, some say seven to represent each day of the week. Each family and each sect of the Italian culture is different and the number of fish varies accordingly. Sometimes it’s three; representing the three wise men. Others serve thirteen different fish representing the twelve apostles plus one for Jesus. Either way, it’s pretty clear that no meat is eaten on Christmas Eve in an Italian home.
Baking is essential to many family traditions. Everyone usually has particular recipes and processes for making cookies. Frosted or not frosted? Made from scratch or prefab from the store? Skickerdoodles or chocolate chip? Or both? Whatever happened to that wonderful hard candy covered in powdered sugar? I haven’t seen that in thirty years. Baking doesn’t just mean cookies either. My sister-in-law has her own tradition of making cheese balls for everyone. Yes, Diane, you are Queen of the Cheese Balls.
One Christmas Eve tradition we started in our family when the kids were little was to drive down the streets and look at all the decorated houses. Do you have a tradition of taking your family to see the River of Lights in Albuquerque every year?
New Year’s traditions are pretty serious too. I mean, you don’t want to do anything to jinx the entire upcoming year? Besides the shallow resolutions, does anyone else eat pork and sauerkraut for good luck on New Year’s Eve or am I the only German in town?
Whatever it is, keep your family traditions alive and even adopt new ones. Make it special so that your children will learn them and want to continue with them when you are gone. The fact is that it’s really about family, about being together. Traditions are the threads that weave one generation to the next. They create family pride and give your children a sense of belonging.
May you all have the merriest Christmas ever and a safe, happy and prosperous New Year.
Quote of the Week: “Tradition does not mean that the living are dead, it means that the dead are living.” - Harold Macmillan (British politician, 1894-1986)
The holidays are steeped in family traditions. It wouldn’t be Christmas or New Year’s without them, everyone knows that. But besides the obvious traditions like decorating a tree or hanging up lights, what are some of the traditions that make the holidays special in your family?
My brother Chris called me the other night as he was heading out to the grocery store to buy the ingredients for Tom and Jerrys. “I haven’t made them in fifteen years,” he said. This traditional Christmastime drink dates back to the 1800s in the United States, but since my grandpa made them every Christmas season since I was born, it is in my blood. Every year growing up my brother and sister and I would spend the week between Christmas and New Year’s with my grandparents in Ohio. As kids, we would get a virgin Tom and Jerry; warm milk, powdered sugar and eggs minus the Brandy, 151 Rum and Jack Daniels. I could hear the pride in Chris’ voice when he told me he was going to show his son how to make the drink this year, passing down a family tradition that probably started even before Grandpa. Learning this tradition my grandfather taught me in the 1960s, to watching my nephew discover it in 2009 is heartwarming. And so it goes.
A Mexican-American tradition in many homes is making tamales on Christmas Eve. Recipes that have been passed down from generation to generation, tamales are central to many families’ night-before-Christmas rituals. My best guess is nobody gets to eat the tamales until after midnight Mass.
Some Italians and Sicilians have a tradition of the seven fish dinner on Christmas Eve, some say seven to represent each day of the week. Each family and each sect of the Italian culture is different and the number of fish varies accordingly. Sometimes it’s three; representing the three wise men. Others serve thirteen different fish representing the twelve apostles plus one for Jesus. Either way, it’s pretty clear that no meat is eaten on Christmas Eve in an Italian home.
Baking is essential to many family traditions. Everyone usually has particular recipes and processes for making cookies. Frosted or not frosted? Made from scratch or prefab from the store? Skickerdoodles or chocolate chip? Or both? Whatever happened to that wonderful hard candy covered in powdered sugar? I haven’t seen that in thirty years. Baking doesn’t just mean cookies either. My sister-in-law has her own tradition of making cheese balls for everyone. Yes, Diane, you are Queen of the Cheese Balls.
One Christmas Eve tradition we started in our family when the kids were little was to drive down the streets and look at all the decorated houses. Do you have a tradition of taking your family to see the River of Lights in Albuquerque every year?
New Year’s traditions are pretty serious too. I mean, you don’t want to do anything to jinx the entire upcoming year? Besides the shallow resolutions, does anyone else eat pork and sauerkraut for good luck on New Year’s Eve or am I the only German in town?
Whatever it is, keep your family traditions alive and even adopt new ones. Make it special so that your children will learn them and want to continue with them when you are gone. The fact is that it’s really about family, about being together. Traditions are the threads that weave one generation to the next. They create family pride and give your children a sense of belonging.
May you all have the merriest Christmas ever and a safe, happy and prosperous New Year.
Quote of the Week: “Tradition does not mean that the living are dead, it means that the dead are living.” - Harold Macmillan (British politician, 1894-1986)
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)